Thursday, February 4, 2016

Duane's thoughts Feb 3 2016

Hi Again! I really hope that things are going well for you this week. I just went to a retirement party for my boss who is retiring this Friday after 33 years at Apple. And, for that entire time I have been working with him because I have been there for 35 years. It is certainly going to be different without him there. He has been there for so long, that I really can’t remember what it was like not having him there. It’s not that I’ve taken him for granted, but it seems that things have always been this way.

It’s kind of the same for me and my brothers. I grew up with three brothers: two older and one twin. And actually, even my twin brother is technically an older brother because he was born 9 minutes before me. And you all know that in family hierarchy, that makes all the difference. People ask me all the time: “What’s it like having a twin brother?” And I have to honestly answer: “I don’t know. What’s it like not having a twin?” I’ve never known anything else - it has always been this way. There are so many things that define who I am that I have had no say over whatsoever:

Some of the things I had no control over:
I was born in Los Angeles, CA in 1958 to a parents of northern European heritage.
I have three brothers and no sisters.
I am the youngest in my family (by nine minutes as mentioned before)
I have a twin brother
I have blue eyes and started with blond hair although it changed to brown and now is going light again. : /
I am just under 6 feet tall (for years I was 6 feet tall but gravity gets you down after a while)
I have weighed between 155 and 160 from the time I was 16 and no matter how much or how little I eat, I have never varied.
I grew up in Saratoga and I went to kindergarten through college in Santa Clara Valley
I was raised in a Christian home and went to church every almost Sunday.

Sometimes it almost seems unfair that so many things that I have had no control over whatsoever have defined my life in such a powerful way. When I travel overseas I am almost immediately picked out as being American (except in Bulgaria where they think I’m Russian) and make lots of judgements based on what they perceive an American is. Actually, I find that it goes a lot better if I tell people I am Californian, rather than American, as they seem to think that everyone in California is a movie star or at least acquainted with someone who is. But since I am American and have a US Passport (for which I did nothing to deserve other than being born here) I can cross most borders without trouble and many without even a visa.

All of these things define me for better or for worse and there is not much I can do to change them. But there are a few things I can do to define myself in ways that perhaps are not obvious to others and yet I know about them. (Oh boy, I’m about to give up a secret here…) Most people may not be aware of it but I almost always wear a T-shirt under a button up shirt. OK, big deal, your thinking. But, the T-shirts that I wear all have things printed on them. Yeah, big deal again. But the things printed on them mean something to me and I select them depending on my mood or what I expect for a particular day. For instance, today, when my boss was retiring after 33 years and I was feeling a little old, I wore my “Old Fort Jackson” shirt. If I am going to a conference or a scientific gathering I will wear my glow in the dark Albert Einstein shirt. If I am going somewhere fun I can wear my “Still plays with trains” shirt. And if I am heading out on a trip I usually wear my “Vancouver, BC, Canada” shirt with a BC flag on it. If they don’t like Americans I can always pose as a Canadian, eh?

There is one other thing that defines my life today which is not necessarily obvious for the outside but I hope becomes obvious once you get to know me and for which I made a conscious decision:
Just before starting 8th grade I heard God calling me and decided to return to church. I accepted Jesus and made a choice to follow him. After that, I looked the same but was completely different on the inside. And today that decision defines me and permeates everything I do.

This Friday I would like each person to bring something, a physical object, that says something about themselves.  Something that illustrates either who you are or how you are perceived.

I hope to see you Friday and find out a little more about you!

Best regards,

Duane

When:
7:15pm on Friday, January 29

Where:
Grace Community Covenant Church
Foothill Covenant Church
1555 Oak Avenue
Los Altos, CA 94024

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